Our Raising Teens radio show looks at domestic abuse this week and how lockdown has exacerbated the issue. The National Domestic Abuse helpline reports a 25% increase in calls and online requests for help since the lockdown. This episode aims to raise awareness and provide advice for those who may be listening and need help. Guests discuss all forms of family abuse including child to parent abuse. If you need help or support with this issue, we have included lots of useful resources at the bottom of this post.

Host Guy Lloyd talks to Jane Griffith, Director at the charity CAPA (Child and Adolescent to Parent Abuse), Alex Psaila from Relate and PC Roisin Vafaee from Sussex Police.

Our teen reporter, Lola Ray, talks to a mother and daughter who have experienced domestic violence and child to parent abuse in the home.

You can hear Raising Teens on BBC Radio Sussex and Surrey at 7.30pm on Mondays and Wednesdays and online on BBC Sounds.

🔊 Listen to Raising Teens: Domestic abuse in Lockdown on BBC Sounds

Listen to previous episodes of Raising Teens:

🔊 Listen to Separated Parenting in Lockdown on BBC Sounds

🔊 Listen to Lockdown Home Schooling on BBC Sounds

🔊 Listen to Anxiety in a Pandemic on BBC Sounds

HELP & ADVICE

In an emergency call 999. If it is not safe for you to speak you can use the Silent Solution system – call 999, and if the operator hears no response, you will be directed to press ‘55’ if you need help. The conversation will then continue in a way that allows the caller to communicate by using yes/no to answer questions.

24hr National Domestic Abuse Helpline freephone 0808 2000 247 

Refuge, supporting women and children who experience all forms of  violence and abuse

Women’s Aid, a grassroots federation working together to provide life-saving services in England and build a future where domestic abuse is not tolerated

Rise, an independent, Brighton-based registered charity that helps people affected by domestic abuse. Rise offers practical help ranging from direct advice to refuge accommodation for those whose lives are at risk.

NSPCCWhat is child abuse?

CAPA, responding to Child or Adolescent to Parent Abuse.​ Supporting parents, grandparents, carers, young people and professionals

Domestic Abuse Survivors’ Alliance, a Brighton-based peer support group for anyone who has experienced, or been affected by, domestic abuse.

The Portal, a partnership of leading Sussex Domestic and Sexual Abuse Charities with a combined experience of over 60 years supporting survivors of domestic and sexual abuse and violence. Freephone 0300 323 9985  

Brighton & Hove Council help for victims of domestic abuse

Respect Phoneline, a confidential helpline, email and webchat service for domestic abuse perpetrators and those supporting them.  Freephone 0808 8024040

Survivor’s Network, offering support for those who have been raped or sexually assaulted.

HELP IN LOCKDOWN

If you are self-isolating with someone who makes you feel unsafe, Rise has produced a guide to help you stay safe at home during lockdown

HELP WITH DRUGS AND ADDICTION

Talk to Frank, information about drugs

Young Minds on drugs and alcohol

Childline, information about addiction

In our third episode of this special lockdown series of Raising Teens, we look at how families with separated parents are coping. With the lockdown starting to be relaxed in coming weeks, topics include co-parenting, differing attitudes to lockdown rules and guidelines, keeping safe in the pandemic and missing a parent, children or siblings you don’t live with. Guests and teens explore creative ways to keep in touch and what’s behind conflict and flare-ups at home.

It’s a really positive episode full of great advice. Host Guy Lloyd talks to guests, Alex Psaila from Relate, Stephen Woodward, Relationship and Parental Counsellor from Brighton & Hove Council, and parent of five, Michelle.

You can hear Raising Teens on BBC Radio Sussex and Surrey at 7.30pm on Mondays and Wednesdays and online on BBC Sounds.

🔊 Listen to Raising Teens: Separated Parenting in Lockdown on BBC Sounds

Listen to previous episodes of Raising Teens in this special lockdown series:

🔊 Listen to Lockdown Home Schooling on BBC Sounds

🔊 Listen to Anxiety in a Pandemic on BBC Sounds

Help & Advice

Relate, offers relationship support and counselling

Brighton & Hove council’s advice for separated or separating parents who want to find ways to improve their relationship and get on better.

The Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service.

NSPCC, advice and information on separation and divorce, including your rights around child contact.

Young Minds, advice on supporting a child during separation and divorce.

Raising Teens is back for a third series on BBC Radio Sussex and Surrey – and, for the first time, on other BBC stations around the country – we’re going national! This special series focuses on lockdown and the pandemic. Host Guy Lloyd and teen reporter Lola Ray are back for series three. The first episode focuses on anxiety and how this pandemic is affecting teens and their families.

You can hear Raising Teens on BBC Radio Sussex and Surrey at 7.30pm on Mondays and Wednesdays and online on BBC Sounds.

This first episode looks anxiety and how parents and carers – who may be struggling themselves – can help their teens with anxiety in lockdown, what is causing it and how teens, parents and carers can get support. There are the usual tips and information on where to get support, so it’s a super useful episode. Guests in this episode are psychotherapist Donna Peters-Lamb from Make Sense Psychotherapy, Mo Bham, Educational Psychologist and Head of Learning Support Services for Brighton & Hove and parent Sophie.

Parent, Sophie, on Raising Teens: Anxiety in a Pandemic

Another first for us and for BBC Radio Sussex is that the whole series is being recorded in lockdown with guests, host and producer, as well as all Lola and her teen interviewees – all recording remotely from their respective homes. Brighton and Hove City Council supports this series. They say it’s an “important and timely radio series that provides accessible information and ideas to help parents and families in lockdown.”

🔊 You can listen to all episodes of Raising Teens here

Where to get support

Young Minds’ information and help with anxiety

Young Minds’ Parents Helpline: 0808 802 5544 (Monday to Friday 9.30am – 4pm, free for mobiles and landlines) 

For England-wide mental health services and support (11-25 years), including advice on depression, relationships, bullying and anxiety, please visit: www.findgetgive.com

If you are in a crisis and looking for support, please visit: www.findgetgive.com/crisis/

The Children’s Society advice on anxiety

Support in Sussex:

Brighton & Hove wellbeing service

CAMHS (Children and Adolescent Mental Health Services) in East Sussex01323 464222 – Monday to Thursday 8.30am – 5pm, Friday 8.30am – 4.30pm. Email: 0-19.SPOA@eastsussex.gov.uk 

East Sussex helpline for parents and carers of young people with SEND (Special Educational Needs and Disability), available during school and setting closure period. Leave your name, telephone number and brief description of the kind of you support you need: 01273 481967

West Sussex educational psychology service community call-back, available during school and setting closure period: https://westsussex.local-offer.org/information_pages/609-educational-psychology-service-community-call-back

Health in Mind, NHS organisation providing courses and therapies to help with stress, anxiety and low mood in East Sussex  https://www.healthinmind.org.uk

For a list of all Brighton and Hove services (11-25 years) please search: www.wheretogofor.co.uk

Hello again – with schools and colleges closing, we want you to know that we’re here for you and that we’ll keep Make (Good) Trouble going for as long as is humanly possible. 

If you’re a parent or a young person struggling to cope, or just worried about the next few weeks and months, we’ve set up a Facebook group to help you. It’s called Raising Teens in Lockdown (what else!). We’ve gathered some of our Raising Teens experts to give advice and you can also share your own ideas and tips or simply have somewhere to talk and be heard. And we have our small army of amazing Make (Good) Trouble teens on hand to help out. 

We’re planning Q&A advice sessions, cook-alongs, home-based activities and more – our teens are brainstorming ideas as I type! We’ll be trialling and sharing the best ways to keep in touch with friends and family – which apps and digital media wok best, including which are free – so no one feels alone. 

We also have every episode of our Raising Teens radio show available to listen to if you need specific help while we get Raising Teens in Lockdown going. Parents, teens and brilliant experts share stories and give really practical advice. 

Communication is so important, as is understanding each other when we’re feeling anxious and in close proximity. Listen to our pilot episode which covered dealing with flare-ups and how to get a teen to talk. We also discussed where to get support for yourself as a parent as well as broaching difficult subjects.

We also have episodes on understanding the Teenage Brain in series 1 – and The Return of the Teenage Brain in series 2 which are amazing insights into the workings of the adolescent brain and really do help us understand why teens act the way they do. 

If your teen is struggling with anxiety and other issues are flaring up, these episodes may help:

Kicking off

Loneliness

Eating Disorders

Self-harm

Family breakups

Relationships

Resilience

Sleep

Social media & devices

You can also join us on TwitterInstagram and LinkedIn – we’ll share the best bits from our Raising Teens in Lockdown group there too.